5 Ways to Heal Childhood Trauma via Inner Child Work
Every kid has had some type of trauma in their life, large or small.
Being abandoned by a childhood friend or having an abusive father are just two examples of traumas that may cause lasting mental and physical damage.
As part of the spiritual awakening process, inner child work is essential because it helps us reconnect with a damaged part of ourselves: the child inside.
By reuniting with this fractured part of ourselves, we might begin to uncover the causes of many of our phobias, anxieties, and self-destructive tendencies in our daily lives.
True healing and release can only occur in this environment!
As a youngster, I’m pretty certain you’ll be surprised by what you learn about yourself as a result of doing inner child training.
For the first time, you’ll get to the root cause of your discomfort rather than just focusing on the symptoms.
Trauma in Childhood: 15 Different Subtypes
To begin with, it’s critical to recognize the wide range of forms of childhood trauma. Physical, emotional, and mental well-being are all included here.
The loss of one’s soul may also occur as a consequence of childhood trauma, which is called dissociation in psychology and shamanic philosophy. It’s called inner work, and it’s the only way to reclaim and reintegrate these broken aspects of ourselves (soul retrieval forms a part of this process).
Some childhood trauma, on the other hand, may not always lead to a shattered soul, but rather to a damaged mind. It’s possible that even long-term illnesses could be caused by a lack of self-confidence or a lack of self-confidence.
The following are some of the most prevalent childhood traumas:
- Your parents or grandparents smack you or hit you
- Not receiving any love from one’s parents because they are emotionally unavailable
- Punishment by kicking, shaking, biting, burning, pulling hair, pinching, scratching, or “washing out the mouth” with soap
- Being subjected to any kind of sexual abuse by one’s own parents, relatives, or close friends
- Being a divorced parent’s kid
- Being assigned obligations that are too heavy or improper (such as caring for your parents).
- To be deprived of food and shelter by one’s parents
- Indifference (your caretakers leaving you alone for long periods of time without a babysitter)
- A lack of emotional care and attention (i.e., neglect)
- Becoming the target of malicious slurs or insults
- Criticism of your personality
- Damage to personal property is the 12th casualty of war.
- Requirements that are excessive
- A traumatic event, such as a car accident or a spontaneous incident
In order to give you a sense of what inner child work works with, I’ve included a few instances of childhood trauma.
We may have been traumatized by people in our family who weren’t our parents. These people might have been grandparents, siblings, parents’ children, cousins, aunts, uncles, and cousins’ friends, as well.
Awakening to One’s Inner Child and the Spiritual Path
Why is connecting with one’s inner child so important on the path to spiritual enlightenment? The truth is that we carry our worst scars inside us. Traumatic experiences may lead to a variety of physiological or psychological symptoms.
And when we’re constricted, we’re encased in what’s known as the ego, a rigidly bound distinct self. (It may also lead to a Dark Night of the Soul later on.)
Ego, as you may or may not be aware, is the root of all our troubles because it gives us the false impression that we are separated from our true nature.
Our ego is fueled when our inner child is locked in agony. When it comes to spirituality, inner child work is a crucial discipline since it helps us heal and grow.
Exactly What is “Inner Child Work”?
The definition of inner child work follows:
Inner child work is a technique for connecting with and healing one’s inner child via awareness, acceptance, and embracement.
Embracing your inner kid allows you to reconnect with the sense of wonder, naveté, and fun that came with being born into this world.
As a result, we are compelled to suppress our inner kid and “grow up” in our society. Truth be told, most people never attain emotional or psychological maturity, despite the fact that they are physically “grown-up.”
There are many “grown-ups” in the world who, in fact, are not adults at all. For most people, this leads to a lifetime of irrational fears, frustrations, and traumas that build up in the subconscious.
Denying and smothering the inner child leads to the accumulation of significant psychological baggage. Mental illness, physical illness, and marital problems are all signs of unresolved emotional and psychological baggage that need to be dealt with.
In fact, it might be argued that the absence of conscious connection to our own inner child is one of the key reasons for today’s society’s problems.
When it comes to the way we live, we’ve lost any sense of decency, whether it’s in our treatment of animals or the way we speak to ourselves.
Work with Your Inner Child in Five Simple Ways (to Heal Trauma)
One thing to keep in mind: reconnecting with your child. The goal of working with your inner child is to avoid becoming childlike again.
As a result, there is a significant distinction between being childish and being childlike.
Being childish may be defined as acting in a nave or immature manner. The opposite is true when it comes to being childlike: it’s a condition of purity and innocence.
All of us have the ability to return to a state of unadulterated awe of the world that we once had as children.
You can’t get rid of your inner child’s shame and guilt until you repair your inner child. The trust of our inner child must be earned via love and self-nurturing in order to do this.
Please note that I shall use the pronoun “she” to refer to the inner child for grammatical consistency, even if this phrase applies to people of all genders or none at all:
1. Make eye contact with your inner child and encourage it to speak back to you
By acknowledging her, you’re letting your inner kid know that you’re there for her. She deserves respect and compassion.
For example, you may tell your inner kid, “You’re very beautiful.”
My heartfelt sympathies
Please know that I’m always here to help.
I really appreciate it.
Face your inner kid on a regular basis. You may also use journaling to speak with your inner child by asking a question and writing down the answer.
2. Observe yourself in the mirror
You may use the mirror gazing method to reconnect with your inner child, often known as mirror work.
You can use this method in addition to the one that was just talked about, or you can talk to your inner child.
This method allows you to get closer to your heart.
Make sure you have some privacy before you do this. Attempting this while you’re sad or anxious isn’t a good idea (i.e., don’t do it!).
Gaze at yourself in the mirror with a soothing palm on your heart. At the very least, do this for five minutes.
Thoughts and maybe unexpected feelings will begin to arise at first. Just let them go by without a second thought. Keep a distance from them.
Imagine them as though they were airborne clouds. Remember that it’s perfectly OK to hold yourself, particularly if you’re experiencing emotions of sadness.
You may then summon your inner kid when you’re ready. This may be done either aloud or silently in your head.
When you see it in your eyes, say something gentle and compassionate to this vulnerable part of you. There are several ways to express your admiration, such as saying “I see you,” “I love you,” “I admire your courage,” or “I admire your strength.”
Take note of any thoughts or emotions that occur to you. It’s important that you use this time to work on self-compassion and love, even when you’re feeling angry or sad.
Give yourself a hug and tell your inner child what else is on your heart and mind at the end of this meditation. Keep a journal to record your thoughts and feelings.
3. Take a look back at childhood photos of yourself
Go through your old picture albums to see what you looked like when you were younger.
Make sure the picture is permanently etched in your mind since it will help you throughout your inner child work.
To keep your inner kid close at hand, consider keeping a picture of yourself next to your bedside table, in your wallet, or somewhere in your home.
4. Do what you liked to do when you were a kid
Take a moment to reflect on your favorite childhood activities.
Toy blocks, snuggling teddy bears, and warm porridge may have been your favorite childhood pastimes.
Regardless of what you enjoyed doing as a kid, make time for it now.
People have informed me that, via inner child therapy, they’ve discovered aspects of themselves they never realized existed as adults. This revelation has the power to transform your life.
This “playtime” is important, and you should address any feelings of humiliation or foolishness you may have about it.
A small amount of foolishness is to be expected, but it’s essential to retain an open mind.
5. Perform some soul-searching
One of the best ways to connect with your inner child and heal childhood wounds is to go on an inner trip.
For beginners, two sorts of inner journeys are recommended: meditation and visualization.
You must first win the confidence of your inner child by engaging in the preceding activities before embarking on these inside trips of exploration.
If you have a deep connection with your inner child, she may help you discover the root causes of the trauma you’re now experiencing.
How to go on a journey of meditation:
Relax, breathe deeply, and ask yourself a question in order to connect with your inner child in a passive way via meditation.
Think about asking your inner child, “Dear inner child, when was the first time I faced trauma in my life?
Allow yourself to be a witness to your own internal dialogue. You may or may not get a response from your inner kid. Always keep in mind that patience is a virtue.
As long as you don’t want to divulge the solution, you should do it nonetheless. Remember to keep a sense of safety and readiness for your inner kid.
If nothing significant comes to mind when you ask the question, you may want to repeat it from time to time.
This procedure might take anything from a few minutes to an hour or even more, depending on the complexity.
Tips: Prior experience meditating is required for the inner child meditation journey to be effective.
If you’ve never meditated before, you may have a hard time mastering the method of observing your thoughts.
This is how you can go on a voyage of visualization:
In order to better connect with your inner child and past traumas, visualizing is a better option.
Creating a “power spot” or safe space is necessary for visualization in order to connect with your inner child. Imagine a beautiful garden or any other area that makes you feel secure, powerful, and whole.
You may then allow your inner child to talk to you after you have entered your power place.
There are a few things you need to do to get started:
- Take a few deep breaths, relax your muscles, and shut your eyes.
- Pretend you’re on a stairwell and you’re descending it.
- Your “power spot” or “safe haven” is at the foot of the stairwell. A sense of safety and security permeates the atmosphere here.
- Get into your power zone for a little while. Immerse yourself in the experience. What is it like to see, hear, and smell?
- Take a mental trip back in time to when you were younger, and enter your power place as if you were your younger self.
- Give your younger self a warm welcome by hugging them.
- In order to get a clear answer, ask yourself, “When was the first time you or I felt sad or terrified?” Consider phrasing the issue in terms that a youngster might understand.
- Await a response from them.
- Do not forget to embrace them, thank them, and express your gratitude.
- Bid them farewell.
- Step outside of your comfort zone by ascending the stairwell.
- Return to a regular state of mind.
Even though these are the basic stages, they provide you with a fair idea of how to begin on an inner child trip.
When we were youngsters, our worldview was vastly different from what it is now when we are adults. As a result, many of the things we now take for granted as harmless for children may really have left us scarred.
You should never assume anything about your inner kid.
As a result of inner child therapy, you may learn how to mourn, heal, and address any causes of trauma that you’ve held on to for years.
In doing so, you may lead a life of real adulthood, emotional stability, spiritual growth, and well-being.