A Guide to Putting Trust into Practice
Consider some of the following challenges that affect the vast majority of us:
Where to put your attention:
When it comes to deciding what we should be working on right now, we don’t put any stock in our feelings.
We become trapped in uncertainty because we don’t trust ourselves to pick what it is that we really want, and we also don’t trust ourselves to be able to stand on our own two feet if things don’t go the way we had thought they would.
Resistance and procrastination go hand in hand:
We experience resistance when confronted with a challenging or frightening activity, which leads to our avoiding it and, ultimately, to procrastination… because we lack the confidence in ourselves to deal with the pain or the fallout from completing the assignment (handle criticism, judgment, or any other potential consequences).
Concern or anxiety in the face of unpredictability or disorder:
When things are unclear, we often experience feelings of anxiety and tension. This is due to a lack of faith in ourselves to manage that uncertainty and cope with whatever may come up, which is a very normal sentiment.
Finding one’s bearings:
When we make an effort to concentrate on anything, we often have the sensation of being tugged in a thousand different ways by things that we need to take care of… because we do not have faith in our own abilities to handle such responsibilities when they arise.
Congratulations are in order for you if you don’t experience any of these issues! You probably have a lot of people who trust you. On a daily level, however, the vast majority of us grapple with these issues. which indicates that there is a wonderful chance to put trust into practice.
In this tutorial, I will discuss the reasons why we do not have trust in ourselves or others, as well as the ways in which we may practice developing that trust.
The Reasons Why There Is No Trust
If we do not trust others, we can be inclined to blame ourselves or believe that there is something morally deficient about our lack of trust. What if, however, we trusted that there are valid reasons for us not to trust?
Consider the possibility that, when we were growing up, we were often shown to be in the wrong by other people and made to feel guilty about it.
If other people were the ones to teach us not to trust ourselves, then it would make perfect sense that we don’t trust ourselves.
What if other people mistreated us, lied to us, or made fun of us when we were younger? It seems to reason that we wouldn’t put our faith in other people.
What if we experienced experiences of failure and shame that felt incredibly strong, and as a result, we learned to strive to avoid the sensations associated with those failures and embarrassments?
It would make logical that we wouldn’t trust ourselves to be able to manage such sensations since in the past it seemed as if we weren’t able to handle them well.
If we were to take into account all of the reasons we were brought up to distrust others, we would see that our mistrust is quite rational. It is not necessary for us to examine such reasons; rather, we should have faith that we have excellent ones.
So the question is, what can we do to fix it?
Various Methods of Training
Every challenge is a new chance to hone your ability to trust.
There is no better time to put your faith into practice than when you are confronted with one of the challenges described above, or any other kind of difficulty.
At any given time, we have the option to either trust or not trust others. This is a decision that we make over and over again.
What Does it Mean to Engage in Trustworthy Behavior?
It’s having faith that our hearts desire what they want and knowing that it’s OK to listen to what they tell us they want.
Letting rid of the urge for things to happen a specific way is the practice behind this concept. Regarding the need to be in either safety or comfort.
It’s having faith that we can deal with any challenges we face.
It’s having faith that we can be with whatever feelings surface for us at any given time.
It’s having faith that other people can feel what they feel and be who they are, and that we, too, can be okay with both of those things.
So… the question is, how can we put our confidence in the present moment?
- Take a moment to stop and remind yourself to “Trust” whenever you have a chance to practice (for example, any of the challenges described above).
- Take a few deep breaths. Become present.
- Try to tune in to what your heart really desires. Are you able to put your faith in what it needs?
- Are you able to put your faith in yourself to go through any uncertainties that may arise?
- Are you able to trust yourself enough to be present with your feelings? To identify with the feelings of other people?
It is completely OK for you to respond “No” to some of these questions. You should give yourself permission to say no for the time being, especially if the no is extremely powerful.
However, you should think about what it might be like if you trusted others more. What actions would you do if you had complete faith in yourself?
What would be different about the way you approach the situation? Would you be able to give it a shot?
This requires a lot of practice. You will build trust if you take action in spite of a lack of trust and demonstrate that you will succeed, even if it means picking yourself up after falling flat on your face.
You’ll have the ability to trust yourself enough to be present with whatever arises, whether it be challenging feelings in yourself or others.
If you behave in a trustworthy manner, you’ll find that you trust others more. That requires a baby step of trust on your part, to begin with.
Something profound will change if you make the decision to trust again. You will find that it is simpler for you to make choices, and you will be able to go about your day feeling both more focused and more at ease.
Things that occur aren’t as significant or distressing as one would think they are. You begin to move with ease.
Would you be able to trust yourself enough to put trust into practice?