Beyond Fear and Addiction
There is a fantastic example of anachronism related to FEAR:
A significant portion of the terror that we experience in our lives is founded on erroneous evidence.
When faced with an immediate and tangible threat, such as being physically assaulted, our bodies are programmed to activate a response known as the “fight or flight” mechanism. When we are confronted with an immediate threat, the hormone adrenaline is released, and blood flow shifts away from our organs and brain and into our limbs in order to prepare us for either a fight or a flight response.
Even when there is no immediate and tangible threat, many individuals spend a significant portion of their day feeling anxious and stressed out in preparation for a fight or flight response. This is due to the fact that the human body reacts in the same manner to perceived threats as it does to actual threats. The body is under the impression that the erroneous evidence that originates from our thoughts is genuine.
This ongoing state of worry and anxiety often drives people to experiment with a variety of addictions with the goal of dulling the unpleasant sensations they are experiencing. Food, drink, drugs, nicotine, gambling, sex, television, shopping, approval, attention, work, wrath, fury, and violence towards oneself and others are all potential coping mechanisms that may be used in an effort to numb or otherwise avoid unpleasant sensations.
However, the addictive behaviors themselves constitute a kind of self-abandonment due to the fact that they are not a loving or healthy method of coping with unpleasant emotions. And ultimately, the greatest dread, worry, and melancholy are the results of abandoning one’s own self.
As a result, a great number of individuals are stuck in a vicious cycle that is founded on self-abandonment:
- It is an abandoning of oneself to have fearful ideas about the future, such as thoughts about being rejected, failing, losing people, losing oneself, or losing money. These kinds of thoughts produce anxiety in the body. When we give ourselves permission to conjure up notions about the future that make us feel anxious, we are giving up on ourselves.
It would be the equivalent of telling a toddler, “You are going to end up all by yourself.” “You will never be loved by anybody.” “You will be forced out into the streets with no means of subsistence and no one to assist you.”
Even though there is no objective truth to these assertions, many individuals continue to tell themselves these over and over again, despite the fact that it would be considered child abuse to say anything like this to a kid.
- Once we have triggered anxiety through our pessimistic way of thinking, we next attempt to escape the fear through a variety of unhealthy addictions. Another kind of self-abandonment is engaging in destructive behaviors in order to avoid taking responsibility for the creation of our fears.
This is the equivalent of giving a scared youngster a cookie rather than addressing the issue that caused the child’s worry. Self-abandonment results in a profound sense of inner emptiness and aloneness, both of which contribute to the maintenance of addictive behavior. In addition to this, it leads to neediness, which in turn leads to a dependency on other people for affection, acceptance, and attention.
- It’s a never-ending cycle of self-abandonment that’s perpetuated by addictive behavior, which is a vicious loop in and of itself.
Moving Beyond Fear and Addiction
There is an exit strategy for this predicament! The process of overcoming phobias and addictions is straightforward, but it is not a simple or easy one. It requires profound dedication and devotion on your part to achieve your calm and pleasure.
- Instead of continuing to avoid these sensations by engaging in a variety of addictive behaviors, you should make the conscious decision to be ready to face the discomfort that you are experiencing and to accept responsibility for the role you had in bringing it about. You can only get insight into the ways in which you are responsible for your own suffering if you are ready to acknowledge and accept your emotions rather than run away from them.
- Make the decision that you wish to gain awareness of the ways in which your own thoughts and actions are contributing to the discomfort you are experiencing.
- Have a conversation with the part of you that is in fear and agony about how you are the one who is inflicting the anguish. You may picture this feeling portion of yourself as being similar to a kid inside you. Identify the ideas and deeds on your part that are contributing to your suffering.
- Be open to receiving guidance from a higher power, such as your own highest and wisest self, an inner teacher or mentor, a guardian angel, or God, on what the reality is regarding your unloving thoughts and what the loving action is to do toward yourself.
- Act lovingly toward yourself by doing the activity that has been suggested to you above.
- Take note of how you are feeling. When you perform loving action, you will recognize it because you will have a greater sense of tranquility as a result. If this is not the case, then you will need to repeat all of these stages in order to find another loving action.
How To Get Rid Of Addiction and Abuse
Do any of these characteristics fit anybody you know?
Some people who have low self-esteem may turn to substance abuse or gambling as a means of improving themselves, particularly during times of elevated stress or intense inner conflict.
A person’s inherent inferiority complex manifests itself in a variety of problematic behaviors, including addiction, misuse of drugs or alcohol, maltreatment of children, compulsive eating, blame-shifting, and aggressive behavior, amongst others.
No successful person seeks a terrible addiction. Individuals who make the decision to misuse substances or engage in addictive behaviors do so in the hopes of gaining control and the opportunity to improve their lives.
You will hear these individuals making excuses and pointing the finger at others in an effort to explain their substance misuse and abusive behaviors and to maintain what little sense of dignity they believe they still possess. They are afraid that they do not have the capacity to better their lives.
If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction or abuse, rather than trying to excuse or assign blame for the problem, consider the following questions:
- Do I want to get healed and find a solution to my problem with abuse or addiction?
- Am I willing to work on myself to get healthier in order to become better?
- Do I recognize that I have no power over other people? The only person I am really in charge of is myself.
- Will I be willing to take the first step for myself? Am I Willing to Take the First Step for Myself to Get Rid of My Addiction? Will I Be Willing to Get Rid of My Excuses for Abuse? Will I be willing to blame others?
Abuse of alcohol and other drugs is a frequent problem in today’s society. At social gatherings, I’ve spoken to a lot of folks who say they become tongue-tied or feel embarrassed. They feel that a few alcoholic beverages, such as cocktails or beers, “give them a boost,” transforming them from an introvert to an extrovert. Drinking makes a lot of individuals feel better about themselves, even if they end up abusing it or becoming addicted to it.
One of the doctors I spoke with for the piece titled Lori Prokop Interviews the Experts commented to me, “It’s unfortunate, but true. One’s use of alcohol, no matter how innocuous it may appear at first, may rapidly and easily develop into an addiction, particularly if the user believes that drinking “improves” them in some manner.
Abuse of alcohol and drugs, as well as addiction to any other substance, are all significant types of human loss. People who rely on any kind of external addiction or abuse rather than working on improving their perceived deficiencies and healing their sufferings are doomed from the very beginning of the game.
Healing is available for such a person. They have to rid themselves of the addiction and abuse, locate a rehabilitation method that is effective, and work through their anxieties and sufferings.