Crying Therapy: Overcoming Emotional Repression
When I was a kid, I remember my parents crying just a few times.
I have never once seen my father shed a tear, whilst my mother has only done so a handful of times during my whole life. But you should know that I’m not the only one who has noticed these things. If your parents were anything like mine, you probably didn’t see them cry out of excitement or happiness very much while you were growing up. I’m sure many of you can relate to this.
But how does any of this really affect anything? This is a quest blog post because I am on a mission to make sobbing something normal, ordinary, and acceptable in my life. As part of this quest, I am writing this post.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a result of parental, cultural, or social influences; sobbing has become something that’s skillfully brushed “under the carpet.” Many of us find it unpleasant, awkward, and sometimes even humiliating to cry in public. For males, it’s an indication of physical frailty, while for women, it indicates emotional fragility.
But where exactly does this situation fall short? Crying out your feelings is not a sign of true weakness; the real sign of weakness is running away from your feelings.
Are You a Person Who Represses Their Emotions?
“The worst part is that even when you weep, I can still hear that you’re attempting to suppress your feelings,” you once told me. These were the words that Sol spoke to me after I had been having a quiet but stormy battle with my feelings, which had lately resulted in burning tears and suppressed sobbing.
“The ability to cry is what defines you as a human being.” However, you are working up all of these feelings to the point where you will erupt… Make a pact with me that you’ll weep more often. I immediately felt a tremendous release from the burden I had been dragging around inside of me, and I committed to making an effort each and every day. So where do we stand? Now I’m working on teaching myself how to weep all over again. Because there is nothing praiseworthy about being an emotionally repressed person, I am making an effort right now to let my emotions flow freely, unrepressed and uninhibited. I do this because I believe that expressing one’s feelings authentically is a sign of strength.
People who suppress their emotions are the source of the majority of the conflict that exists in the world. Consider the impact that sexual repression has on individuals and on society as a whole, and you’ll get a sense of the chaos that is caused when emotions are repressed and not recognized. Even in my personal relationships, emotional suppression has caused numerous mountains to be created out of hills that are rather small. Consider the following: emotional and physical separation; irritability; envy; and creating unneeded drama over the most insignificant of details.
But how can you determine whether you are someone who emotionally represses themselves and isn’t in touch with their feelings? Here are some clues:
- There is a restriction on how readily and freely one may weep.
- Having trouble laughing to one’s heart’s content
- You have trouble recognizing different feelings.
- Having a hard time putting one’s feelings into words.
- You have trouble emotionally connecting with other individuals.
- Secrecy. Keep your ideas, views, and emotions to yourself and do not share them with other people.
- Depression, sadness, or glumness that cannot be explained.
- A lack of capacity to communicate intense feelings such as rage or grief.
- Keeping one’s feelings bottled up within till one eventually explodes
If you share more than a handful of these characteristics, there is a good likelihood that you have buried your emotions and thus lost touch with them.
The Crucial Role of Letting Everything Hang Out
Why are (the majority of) Latinos known for being so colorful and charismatic?
Because they are in tune with their feelings, is the correct answer.
Cultures, in particular, have mastered the skill of expressing their feelings, whether they be happiness, appreciation, rage, grief, love, or desire. The reason I have such a high level of respect for them is because their relationship with their bodies and emotions is so raw, rustic, and untamed.
Even the shy and deferential Japanese have a knack for “letting it all out” when they need to. According to a recent piece that was published in the UK Independent, businesspeople in Japan have turned to going to see depressing and tear-jerking movies in order to shed a few tears. It is referred to as the “weeping boom” in Japanese, which refers to the surge in popularity of expressing one’s feelings.
Whether or not it’s now fashionable, expressing our emotions via tears is a thoughtful approach to going through life. If crying didn’t serve any function, then why would we even have the capacity to do it in the first place? Both laughing and crying are necessary for our overall health and well-being. But how are we supposed to smile when our hearts are so filled with such gloomy and sad feelings?
Before we can learn to laugh, we have to first master the art of crying. You can’t just laugh away unpleasant feelings and thoughts. Even if they are at a lower concentration, they will still be there in the background.
The release of our “tensions” and the loads we carry is facilitated by nature via the release of tears. Unfortunately, this does not solve any of our difficulties. On the other hand, this allows us to approach the resolution of our issues with a clearer mind. Crying, in its most fundamental sense, enables us to lead lives that are more vibrant and self-aware.
When we are trying to reacquaint ourselves with our souls, it is critical for us to recognize and communicate how we are feeling.
I hope that you will all consider seeing a depressing movie today, regardless of your gender, age, or age group. Just let every emotion out.