There Are Six Activities Derived From Positive Psychology That Might Help You Feel Happier
“The key to happiness is to count your blessings while everyone else is tallying up their problems,” said William Penn ‘
Recently, a buddy of mine posed the following question to me: “What’s the worst habit you’ve overcome?”
“What else do you recommend for breakfast, except chocolate?” I joked. That would be considered a complaint.
I used to be someone who constantly complained about things. My tendency to complain was essentially inherited. My father constantly passed judgment and made assumptions about other people when I was growing up. He blamed the weather for his tennis elbow, the traffic, and his poor golf game. He also blamed the weather for his bad tennis play.
If we were driving past a neighbor’s well-kept lawn, he would murmur that the home had been purchased “for a bargain,” all the while waving to the owner of the property. When he saw his coworkers on holiday in Hawaii, he automatically assumed that their families had paid for the trip.
Therefore, it shouldn’t have come as a surprise when I began to criticize my friends during conflicts or when I made a comment that was below the belt when my closest buddy asked another friend to Disneyland.
I would freely confess that, at first, it gave me a nice, even overpowering, feeling. But not long after that, I started to feel guilty and depressed.
When I was in fourth grade, my teacher gently drew me aside one day after recess, and that was the moment that changed everything for me. “You know, there are times when we believe our circumstances are far more dire than they really are.” But if you begin to focus on the positive aspects of your life, you’ll realize how amazing it really is.
Even if it was a roundabout way of teaching me, Ms. Braun instilled in me a sense of thankfulness. And one of the reasons I’m so drawn to positive psychology is thankfulness.
The field of positive psychology urges us to investigate which of our beliefs and behaviors we might modify to increase our levels of happiness.
Because of this deliberate attention, we are inspired to work on cultivating pleasant emotions, nurturing relationships, and doing acts of kindness.
The activities that follow may help enhance not just your emotional well-being but also the well-being of another person.
First Exercise: Name Three Amusing Occurrences
Write down three hilarious things that happened to you on a particular day, along with an explanation of why those things occurred. For instance, did you personally participate in this activity? Was this something that you watched, or was this something that occurred spontaneously?
If you are able to laugh at yourself and the situations in which you find yourself, it indicates that you do not take life too seriously. The best part is that laughter spreads easily.
Second Exercise: Journaling
Writing in a journal captures a moment in time like a photograph. Journaling not only helps us develop the beneficial habit of self-reflection, but it also enables us to record the ways in which our thoughts and behaviors have improved, and it speeds up the process by which we may go from a negative state of mind to a more positive one.
For instance, if you were just promoted at work, you would describe the following in your narrative:
What led up to it and why (through hard work and spending fifteen minutes double-checking my numbers)
Why did it take place? (I decided to put in my application for the promotion on my own initiative.)
What did I get right and why? (I discussed the best strategies to increase work performance with top executives in the organization, and they gave me some suggestions.)
The role that I played in making this occur (Instead of viewing my favorite television series, I decided to study business journals and reports on stocks.)
Next, make a note of an aspect of an activity that you disliked and consider how you may improve it. Take, for instance,
When my roommate arrived home late on Thursday and woke me up, I lost my temper with her and yelled at her.
Find solutions for the following issues:
How this is preventing me from moving forward (Because I couldn’t stop thinking about how insensitive she is, I had trouble falling back asleep.)
How can I free myself from this rut, both mentally and physically? (I am able to be more accommodating; after all, she is an adult now and does not need a bedtime. When she goes out throughout the week, I can get some earplugs and put them in my ears.
Third Exercise: Write Your Future Journal
It doesn’t matter whether you’re working toward a better diet, pursuing an advanced degree, or launching your own company: the period of time between beginning your endeavor and accomplishing your objective might seem like an eon. Imagining what you want your life to be like in the years to come may be a powerful source of motivation that can help you break out of a rut.
Close your eyes and see your future. Concentrate on the ways in which your life will be different and the alterations that will be made. Consider how you will experience the new and improved you, as well as how others will react to the new and improved you.
Consider how you can best help other people with the routines, abilities, and skills that you are currently developing. This should be your first priority.
Fourth Exercise: Tally Up Acts Of Benevolence
You should keep a record of all the acts of kindness that you do on a given day, as well as the acts of kindness that you see in other people. These may be as simple as putting the morning newspaper on the door of your neighbor; assisting an elderly person in crossing the street; or smiling and saying hello to those you don’t know.
Fifth Exercise: Gratitude Visit
Consider someone you should express gratitude to, maybe someone who has been helpful or kind to you in the past (and not a family member, partner, or spouse).
You should thank this individual in writing by sending them a letter that describes the ways in which they assisted you and the effect that their assistance has had on you over time.
Make plans to get together with a buddy of yours and tell them you brought something to read to them when you do. After you have finished reading the letter, you should give it to the recipient as a present.
Placing the letter in a frame or laminating it is a kind touch that is completely discretionary but is very much appreciated.
Sixth Exercise: Strive To Have A More Upbeat And Optimistic Attitude
It is essential to keep in mind that, despite the fact that terrible things occur on a daily basis, the world is, overall, a safe place to live.
We all go through traumatic and painful experiences. People who are able to see the positive in any circumstance have the tenacity to recover from setbacks more rapidly.
When you make the conscious decision to be positive, you turn within in search of resources and you put your faith in your own ideas, feelings, and actions. You are aware that there is a way out, yet life will continue to cause you agony and suffering.
The week before, when I took my kid to school, I discovered that I was suddenly overcome with feelings of melancholy and fear for no apparent reason. What if something terrible takes place, and I don’t see him ever again?
Even though I was aware that these thoughts were pointless, it was difficult to escape the feeling of impending doom as I watched his vanishing form fade farther and further into the crowd of middle school pupils.
After that, I took several slow, deep breaths, closed my eyes, and reminded myself that my emotions are not facts, and that I could get through the anxious state by focusing on doing things consciously.
I turned my head and took in the scenery, taking in the trees, the clean air, the early sunshine, and the excited teenagers who were sprinting toward the crossing guard who was stationed at the side of the roadway.
My attention was drawn to the unpretentious charm all around me. It was at that moment that I had an epiphany: the quality that differentiates those who complain from those who do not is an unwavering sense of appreciation and thanks for what one has in this very moment.
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