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“I am stronger as a result of the challenging times; I am wiser as a result of my errors; and I am happier as a result of having encountered grief.” ~Unknown

It’s occurred to the majority of us at some point.

Despite the fact that we had the greatest of intentions, something terrible ended up happening.

You are the victim of a devastating loss, you do a heinous error, or you are taken by surprise by an injury.

Your intellect, in utter amazement, screams, “Wait. What?”

And then they said, “No, no, no, there is no way that this is happening.”

You come to the realization that yes, this is occurring after you have gotten over the first shock and the spike of stress hormones that accompanied it.

You can’t help but wonder, “But how could this possibly have transpired?” It is not fair. I can’t take it any longer. Why me? Why now now? “How on earth am I going to get through this?”

Your thoughts are all over the place. You are experiencing feelings of both anxiety and depression right now.

To tell you the truth, I recently went through something quite similar.

My husband and I were pleased to finally reach home at one in the morning on a Wednesday after being gone for eight days and making a difficult journey back home that lasted fifteen hours.

But the moment I stepped foot inside the house and unlocked the front door, I had a terrible feeling that something was really wrong. Micah, my much-loved cat, had came over to say hello, but she wasn’t purring in her typical reassuring manner as she did so.

She was wailing in an unfamiliar manner that I had never, ever heard before when she was in danger.

“Wait. What? What’s the matter, what’s the matter?

After then, I was suddenly aware of it. As I raced farther inside the home, I found proof that proved one of my greatest dreams to be true.

Micah had not been cared for by my reliable and long-time pet sitter, who had been absent.

My beautiful cat, who was sixteen years old and lived alone, had been home alone for eight days without any food, drink, or her heart medicine. How was it even possible that she was still alive?

Witnessing Micah’s trauma and the accompanying decrease in her physical and mental health has been quite upsetting for me since I have a deep and abiding affection for animals.

Because of this, I’ve been having a lot of negative, angry, and hopeless thoughts, and they’ve been competing for my attention. And I can say without a doubt that the event made me feel weaker.

But as soon as I was able to, I made it a point to go back to the routines that I’ve developed over the years and that help me remain resilient no matter what comes up in my life.

1. Make good use of the power of choice you have.

You have the ability to select where you want to go and how you want to spend your energy, regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in. You have the ability to choose whether to channel your energy in a manner that is constructive and productive or destructive and bad. No matter what happens, the decisions you make right now will decide the course of your life.

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When I opened my front door and witnessed Micah’s pain, I knew I had some decisions to make right away. I have the option of remaining sad, disturbed, and miserable in this situation. Or I could choose to acknowledge that it was a miracle that my cat was still alive and allow myself the ability to shower her with the amount of affection and care that she deserved.

You may make the conscious decision to direct your energy in good areas by doing this until it becomes a habit. When it happens, you will have greater authority over the situation, and your life will have less problems as a result. You will get the impression that you are living life on purpose and that you are in control of the path your life is following, rather than considering life to be something that merely occurs to you.

2. No matter what, you must learn to accept reality as it is.

Try not to cognitively classify what occurs as either positive or negative; instead, simply let it be.

When you stop judging the present moment and instead choose to accept it, you enter a condition of inner non-resistance. You could still have the desire to make changes, but now you have a more level head, and whatever action you take to better your circumstances will have a greater chance of success.

At first, I thought that Micah’s situation was quite unfortunate. But since I swiftly accepted the circumstances rather than rebelling against them, I was able to focus all of my mental and intuitive energy on determining what she needed the most so that I could provide assistance to her right away.

Instead of fighting against the way things are, try to accept them in their current state. When you’ve made this a habit, you’ll discover that you’re able to think clearly and rationally about ways to solve issues that previously left you feeling overwhelmed.

3. Be appreciative.

Finding things for which to be thankful not only makes your day-to-day life better, but it may also help you deal through challenging times by providing you with a broader perspective that makes it easier for you to feel less overwhelmed by challenging situations.

An eight-pound cat that was sixteen years old and had a cardiac issue had a high risk of passing away as a result of such a traumatic event. Therefore, I had three reasons to be thankful for on that particular night.

First, Micah had not yet passed away. Second, I was finally able to get home in time to save her. And last, I was thankful that my pet sitter had instructed me to keep extra water out for my dog when I was going to be gone for an extended period of time. This is most likely what prevented Micah from passing away.

Try to train your attention on the positive aspects of the situation. Every day, bring awareness to the many reasons you have to be thankful. Finding something for which to express gratitude will soon become second nature to you, regardless of what challenges life throws your way. In time, you’ll realize that the practice of appreciation is responsible for bringing greater pleasure into your life.

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4. Make the most of a bad situation.

Sometimes our thoughts are guided by our inner critic, who may be quite critical of what we do and how we think. However, if you are paying attention, you will be able to spot toxic ideas and replace them with comments that are more encouraging.

That night, my inner bully made her presence known. “Micah places her trust in you to protect her at all times. How could you have allowed anything like this happen?

I instantly put a stop to this by changing the detrimental ideas in my head to words that I often repeat out to my adorable cat, “I love you, Miss Micah.”

Always challenge the validity of your negative views, and work toward replacing them with more constructive, optimistic remarks. When you get into the practice of doing this, you’ll discover that negative thoughts no longer have the ability to disturb you. Your state of mind will grow more at ease as time goes on, and you will have an easier time letting go of those feelings.

5. Bring your focus back to the here and now.

One of the most enjoyable mental pursuits for us as human beings is to allow ourselves to get distracted by daydreaming about the past or the future.

The mental clutter may be cleared away and you can find yourself back in a state of simplicity if you remind yourself to bring your focus back to the “now.”

During the course of that very long night, I tried all in my power not to let my mind wander to questions about how something like this could have taken place or what the future held for Micah’s health. I just had to keep telling myself, “I love you, Miss Micah,” in order to bring myself back to the here and now.

As you go about your day-to-day tasks, make sure that you are focusing all of your attention on the things that are occurring in the here and now rather than letting your mind wander. When you get into the habit of doing this, you will have a stronger connection to the knowledge that is deep inside you. You will find that it is less difficult to make choices, and that life in general starts to go more smoothly.

6. Have faith in yourself.

It is preferable to rely on one’s own instincts and intuition than than seek outside of oneself for direction, even if this results in the individual making errors along the road.

Even though it seemed like a time-sensitive emergency, I spent my time thinking about the various solutions.

It would take me about 45 minutes to get to the emergency veterinary facility, but I could put Micah in the pet carrier and make the trip. Or I could take care of her in private for a few more hours until the doors of my neighborhood veterinary clinic opened.

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The middle of the night had arrived, and she had already gone through a great deal. Following my gut instinct told me that letting her stay in her house would result in less stress, so that’s what we did.

Always keep in mind to seek guidance from the knowledge that is deep inside you. When you develop this into a habit, you will notice that you have less stress and a greater sense of optimism. You will have a feeling of inner comfort and confidence in yourself that is not dependent on the acceptance of other people.

7. Forgive.

To really forgive someone, you must be able to detach yourself emotionally from the events that transpired and accept them as they were. You are grateful for the healing and progress that you have experienced as a result of working through the distressing event, and you desire the same for the other person.

Because of the scheduling error, my pet sitter was understandably upset and asked me to have mercy on her. I was well aware that she was incapable of purposefully causing damage to any kind of life. I was also aware of how despondent I would feel if it turned out that I was the one who had made such an error.

And so I did. I forgave her.

Practice forgiving other people and letting go of the poisonous animosity that is causing you emotional pain. Please forgive yourself as well; none of us are perfect and we all slip up sometimes. When you make it a practice to forgive others, you allow yourself permission to go on with your life and access deeper levels of inner peace.

You: Unruffled, Unclouded, and Undaunted

When unfavorable events occur, life may be challenging.

It is never enjoyable to be in a state in which one feels surprised, apprehensive, and discouraged.

But getting into these routines while things are going relatively well can make your life better overall and make it easier for you to persevere when things become challenging.

Imagine being in the midst of a setback or a crisis and being able to fast move through the shock and stress rather than staying trapped there. This would be a significant improvement over the alternative.

Imagine being able to maintain your composure, clarity, and self-assurance in the face of challenging situations rather than feeling confused and overwhelmed.

Imagine even arriving to a condition of inner calm while you take steps to put things back in order while you’re in the process of making things right again.

Even if some of these ideas are simpler to internalize than others, becoming an expert in any of them will take some time.

But even if you choose just one and begin to practice it, you will improve your strength, your wisdom, and your ability to bounce back from the challenges that life brings you.

If I am capable of doing it, then so are you.

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