28 Thought-Provoking Queries: If You Want a Happy Life
Don’t let confusion enter your mind. It makes no difference how clear the road is if your mind is continuously making things more complicated– Unknown
Have you ever realized that the person who asks you a thought-provoking question is the source of your most profound “aha” moments?
Everything makes a little bit more sense all of a sudden, and you know what you need to do from that moment forward, right?
That completely describes how it feels for me. When I least expect it, someone will ask me a question that seems completely irrelevant, and then bang!
I feel like I’m literally made of clarity right now because all of a sudden I’m brimming with answers, feelings, and solutions.
A few years back, after a particularly miserable rainy day, a friend of mine asked me over a cup of coffee, “Blake, what are you trying to avoid?”
“What? Nothing. In the end, I gave a response that went something like, “I mean, I suppose I don’t want it to fail.”
“Yeah, and…” she said in a witty tone. “What follows after that?”
I went to Mary because her willingness to tackle problems head-on always impresses me, and I wanted her to tackle my problem and provide me with the sound guidance I was certain she could provide.
I wanted to quit my job in corporate America and start my own business, but I needed her to convince me that I wasn’t completely insane for doing so.
I wanted to throw caution to the wind and pursue the path of what I believed in with the most fervent conviction.
I wanted to write my own version of the American dream.
I needed confirmation from another person that it was going to be successful.
Calculating, weighing, and analyzing are all useful activities, but they will only take you so far.
I was vaguely aware that I needed something to bring me out of my mind and into a state where I could think more clearly. I was in need of that prod.
We went back and forth for what seemed like an unending amount of time.
When two individuals are having a discussion like this, one of them will eventually break the pattern and either say something weirdly meaningful or just get irritated and urge the other person to shut up and go away.
This happens rather often.
I was given the former rather than the latter, which I consider to be a fortunate turn of events.
She questioned when one should stop weighing the potential benefits and drawbacks of an action and instead “just do it. Because it seems like you’re constructing a wonderful ship, you’re much too immature to ever set sail.”
Which do you value more: fantasizing about it or actually achieving it?
I was really taken aback. Holy cow! She had a valid point. Which of them was I most dedicated to? What a wonderful question.
As a coach (yes, I took the leap and started my own business), I make a living by asking clients questions like these in order to help them get out of their own way.
The beauty of these questions is that there is no one correct or incorrect response. They are only intended to start you thinking and maybe show you the choices you have been making as well as the ones you would want to make in the future.
These are some of the questions I like to ask the most:
1. Although we gain wisdom from our errors, we are nonetheless very reluctant to repeat them. In what ways does this apply to you?
2. If you knew there was no way you could fail, what kind of risk would you take?
3. What do you consider to be your best asset? Have any of your actions in the recent past displayed this level of strength?
4. What are the top five treasured possessions in your life?
5. If you didn’t know how old you were, what age do you think you would be?
6. At what point do you decide to stop weighing the potential benefits and drawbacks of an action and just act?
7. Thinking back on your recent past, can you pinpoint a moment when you felt the most energized and engaged with life?
8. With what do you feel the strongest connection? Why?
9. If you could give a newborn infant just one piece of advice, what would it be?
10. If you fail, is that worse than never attempting at all?
11. Why do we do things we detest and enjoy the ones we never seem to do?
12. What are you trying to stay away from?
13. What is the one job, cause, or activity that you could do for the rest of your life that would make you happy to get out of bed every morning? Are you doing that at this very moment?
14. When all is said and done, do you think you’ll have spoken more than you’ve actually accomplished?
15. For what do you feel the most thankful?
16. If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be, in your opinion, and why?
17. Do you find that you have more of an impact on the world around you, or does the world have more of an impact on you?
18. In spite of what you believe, are you settling for what you’re doing, or are you doing what you believe?
19. To what do you have a firm commitment?
20. Which causes you more anxiety: getting things done correctly or getting things done correctly?
21. If happiness became the country’s standard unit of money, what sort of employment do you think would make you wealthy?
22. Have you been the type of friend you would want if you needed one?
23. Do any of the things that used to bother you many years ago still have any impact on how you feel today? What exactly has changed?
24. If you could have either less work to complete or more work that you enjoy doing, which would you choose?
25. In order to proceed, what kind of authorization do you need or desire?
26. If you really think about it, what could possibly go wrong if you give it a shot?
27. How would you live your life if criticism did not exist in the world?
28. We are constantly presented with options. Are you making this decision for your own narrative or for that of someone else?
Strong questions have the potential to alter the fundamental foundation on which we are built.
They provide us with the opportunity to test our own principles and possibly shed some light on the things to which we are or are not fully devoted.
It is essential to get a firm grasp on the fact that we are always devoted to something. If we can’t achieve success on our own, the next best thing is to bask in the reflected glory of another person’s accomplishments.
If we are not dedicated to generating our own chances, then we are committed to aimlessly floating about, hoping, waiting, and praying for circumstances to provide us with possibilities.
Do you feel more devoted to following your dreams or actually achieving them?
When you’re at a loss for what to do next, try asking yourself any of these questions. What comes up may surprise you!
Friends, I wish you peace, love, and a million times the success that you deserve.